I can't even eat turkey

[lodessa]

So our Thanksgiving tradition of all getting together on my mom's side in Fresno got destroyed last year when my uncle's wife suddenly decided to go down her family after 20 something years and after having hosted the dinner for the last 5 or so instead of my grandparents (a year after my grandfather's death I might add). Also she didn't even say anything. Last year, my mom and Dan hosted it and I made a large portion of the food. This year, what I really wanted to do was have some friends over and have a nice little Thanksgiving of our own. Until today the family plan for this year was to gather at my grandmother's and mom, Dan, and I would make food and maybe order in a few things. Yesterday I decided to call my grandmother and tell her me wouldn't make it on account of Jeremy's schedule and have that friends Thanksgiving. So I call her and suddenly I am getting filled in on drama. Well... my aunt remembered my mom getting stressed out last year and demanded that we only order in food or she wasn't coming. So my grandmother was telling me that she would just drive up if Wendi was going to be a pain and we would have it at mom and Dan's and that would solve the problem of Jeremy having to work at 3AM the next day. She told me to call mom and have her call her. I get ahold of mom and when I bring it up she flips out and doesn't want to talk about it then and when she said she'd call me back she sounded like she was starting to cry. WTF? Why does Thanksgiving bring out the crazy.

Also my sister is ditching out and going to Virginia with her boyfriend... So more pressure for me. Cry. I seriously cannot wait until we have a house and thus room to host it ourselves for the whole family. And this doesn't even begin to cover the issue with dad and my brother and my grandmother on that side and everything else involving having divorced parents... or Jeremy's family.

I really hope my mom stubbornly insists on going to Fresno and I can thus blow my family off and have friends over instead. But I am sure that will not happen and instead there will be a shit ton of drama before we reach the end of this.

Comments

[silver-fic.livejournal.com]

*hugs* I'm sorry hun, I hope things get a bit better/easier. I think family brings out the crazy in everyone though. Any holiday or event where everyone is suoposed to be together leads to stress, it's odd.

[lodessa.livejournal.com]

Yeah. I think it's the pressure to be this ideal family that no one is in their daily life.

[silver-fic.livejournal.com]

Eh, my family is always like that when we are all in one place. But especially when everyone is at my apartment, then I just want to kill them, our apartment is too small for 7 or 8 people to be in at once. Our apartment is practically too small for four.

[lodessa.livejournal.com]

Yeah, If we had more room/tables and chairs I would be hosting thanksgiving myself, but alas that is another 5-10 years down the line for us.