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lodessa1) Fandom criteria for pairing creation
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sophia_helix
a) Both characters are attractive
(pairing)
b) They have also met in canon
(main pairing)
c) They additionally occasionally argue
(OTP)
2) Srong Opinions:
So I was reading about the supreme court's latest indication of having no respect whatsoever for Roe v. Wade or women's welfare in general and one thing in particular hit me.
3 months from conception is not always adequate time to take care of things.
If you weren't having a crappy pregnancy you could not even realize you were pregnant until maybe 3 months if you were taking birth control pills or have an irregular cycle. Yeah you might have put on a few pounds but it isn't going to be obvious physically necessarily, and a lot of us are taking forms of birth control that mean you don't have your period for 3 or 4 or even 6 months. That's not even factoring in the denial aspect of the situation.
In addition to this, they count those months not from the date of conception but the end of your last period. So even if you took a pregnancy test the day you were late (which you wouldn't you'd wait a week or two), you'd already be considered a month pregnant... and the test probably wouldn't show it. So you'd wait, somewhat reassured. You'd be "2 months pregnant" before you knew it.
Unless you are taking a pregnancy test just in case at all times (which would be ridiculously expensive) you aren't necessarily going to know early on. Want there to be less late term abortions? Make pregnancy tests more easily accessible. Most sexually active women spend at least half the time scaring themselves into thinking they might be pregnant for no good reason, so we are somewhat hesitant to invest $20 in what we suspect is probably out over active imagination. Make them cheap and we'd sure enjoy some peace of mind.
Also, with the cutting off of funding to clinics... there may not be somewhere in your town you can even go and the closest location may make you wait weeks to get an appointment to even talk about options and then you'd have to wait even longer to actually have the procedure done. If you are lucky and have money/good health insurance it's a whole lot easier, but a whole lot of women woh have these options don't realize that they don't have to go to Planned Parenthood maybe because their medical group might provide those services cloaked in amongst prenatal care for people who actually want to have children. I didn't for a long time.
Listen people... no woman wants to have a later term abortion. It's a horrible painful experience. Women don't want to have abortions at all. We'd all love to never get pregnant until we really want to. But things happen.
3)On Life and Changing and Growing:
Today I was driving to work listening to Rilo Kiley's More Adventurous and the title track came on and I was thinking about how opposite the main idea is to our general conception about having been heartbroken. We tend to think that being burned makes you more cautious not more adventurous. So I've always found it a curious idea.
Until now. Because, my friends, I have become more adventurous. I used to be so afraid to push for what I wanted, say how I felt, demand what I deserved. But I went to therapy and did a hell of a lot of work and realized how badly fear had been working out for me. So over the last few years I have become more adventurous, precisely based on previous broken hearts. I told Eric the second time that I was crazy about him; he gave me a response I needed to hear and even though his declaration that I was the only one and he was faithful didn't prove the case... I got validation and I became more adventurous because I proceeded to tell Davis that I really liked him, wanted to be with him, and that I couldn't deal with him trampling all over my heart any more. It didn't get me what I wanted but it was a step and I think without it I would never have had the courage to commit to someone emotionally and say what I wanted and felt and there would never have been the possibility for any of what I am enjoying with Jeremy. And maybe we won't end up together but I am adventurous enough to be open to the possibility that we will and whatever happens... I plan to continue on becoming more adventurous.
Extrapolated by myself and
sophia_helixa) Both characters are attractive
(pairing)
b) They have also met in canon
(main pairing)
c) They additionally occasionally argue
(OTP)
2) Srong Opinions:
So I was reading about the supreme court's latest indication of having no respect whatsoever for Roe v. Wade or women's welfare in general and one thing in particular hit me.
3 months from conception is not always adequate time to take care of things.
If you weren't having a crappy pregnancy you could not even realize you were pregnant until maybe 3 months if you were taking birth control pills or have an irregular cycle. Yeah you might have put on a few pounds but it isn't going to be obvious physically necessarily, and a lot of us are taking forms of birth control that mean you don't have your period for 3 or 4 or even 6 months. That's not even factoring in the denial aspect of the situation.
In addition to this, they count those months not from the date of conception but the end of your last period. So even if you took a pregnancy test the day you were late (which you wouldn't you'd wait a week or two), you'd already be considered a month pregnant... and the test probably wouldn't show it. So you'd wait, somewhat reassured. You'd be "2 months pregnant" before you knew it.
Unless you are taking a pregnancy test just in case at all times (which would be ridiculously expensive) you aren't necessarily going to know early on. Want there to be less late term abortions? Make pregnancy tests more easily accessible. Most sexually active women spend at least half the time scaring themselves into thinking they might be pregnant for no good reason, so we are somewhat hesitant to invest $20 in what we suspect is probably out over active imagination. Make them cheap and we'd sure enjoy some peace of mind.
Also, with the cutting off of funding to clinics... there may not be somewhere in your town you can even go and the closest location may make you wait weeks to get an appointment to even talk about options and then you'd have to wait even longer to actually have the procedure done. If you are lucky and have money/good health insurance it's a whole lot easier, but a whole lot of women woh have these options don't realize that they don't have to go to Planned Parenthood maybe because their medical group might provide those services cloaked in amongst prenatal care for people who actually want to have children. I didn't for a long time.
Listen people... no woman wants to have a later term abortion. It's a horrible painful experience. Women don't want to have abortions at all. We'd all love to never get pregnant until we really want to. But things happen.
3)On Life and Changing and Growing:
Today I was driving to work listening to Rilo Kiley's More Adventurous and the title track came on and I was thinking about how opposite the main idea is to our general conception about having been heartbroken. We tend to think that being burned makes you more cautious not more adventurous. So I've always found it a curious idea.
Until now. Because, my friends, I have become more adventurous. I used to be so afraid to push for what I wanted, say how I felt, demand what I deserved. But I went to therapy and did a hell of a lot of work and realized how badly fear had been working out for me. So over the last few years I have become more adventurous, precisely based on previous broken hearts. I told Eric the second time that I was crazy about him; he gave me a response I needed to hear and even though his declaration that I was the only one and he was faithful didn't prove the case... I got validation and I became more adventurous because I proceeded to tell Davis that I really liked him, wanted to be with him, and that I couldn't deal with him trampling all over my heart any more. It didn't get me what I wanted but it was a step and I think without it I would never have had the courage to commit to someone emotionally and say what I wanted and felt and there would never have been the possibility for any of what I am enjoying with Jeremy. And maybe we won't end up together but I am adventurous enough to be open to the possibility that we will and whatever happens... I plan to continue on becoming more adventurous.
